It was never about your willpower.

Let’s be honest:
Most people struggling with body image think they just lack discipline.

 “If I could just stick to the plan…”
“If I had more willpower, I’d feel better in my body by now.”
“If I could stop sabotaging myself, I’d finally be confident.”

 But here’s the truth:
It was never about willpower.
And your body image struggles are not a personality flaw.

They’re a story.

Your body story

 We all carry a story, often invisible, sometimes unconscious, about what our body means.

 This story gets shaped by:

• Messages we heard growing up

• The way others treated us based on our size, shape, race, or gender

• Cultural beauty ideals

• Past experiences with illness, injury, food, or shame

You didn’t wake up one day and decide to be at war with your body.
That story was handed to you, bit by bit, silently and loudly, over time.

But here’s the powerful part: you can rewrite it.
Gently. Thoughtfully. On your own terms.

Try This: Trace Your Body Story

 Here are a few journaling prompts to explore this week:

What’s your earliest memory of feeling shame about your body?

What messages did your family or culture give you about beauty, size, or worth?

If you imagined your body image like a book, what chapter are you ready to close, and what would you want the next one to say?

 You don’t have to figure it all out at once.
But beginning to notice the story changes everything.

Takeaway - 

Your body image is not a fixed truth.
It’s a story that’s been shaped over time.
And you are allowed to question it.
You are allowed to change it.
You are allowed to choose a new narrative that actually feels like yours.

Want to go deeper? 

This is exactly what we explore in the first phase of the BYOUDI Body Image Healing Framework and what we cover in the early stages of my course Enough, Already: Body Image Starter Kit.
It’s the gentle unraveling that helps everything else begin to make sense.

If this resonates, the course might be the next right step for you.